MLC Script: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give

• I need space.
• I need to be on my own.  
• I need to go away and find myself.
• I need to be alone.
• I want a new life.
• I’m becoming the man I always should have been.

 

• I need to find happiness.  
• It’s time for me to be happy.
• I haven’t been happy for years.

 

• I want to be selfish for once in my life.  
• It’s my turn to be selfish now.
• I’m tired of spending my life doing what everyone else wants.

 

• I feel like I’m dying.
• I was suffocating.  
• You suck the life out of me.
• If I didn’t leave, I’d die.

 

• I had to leave.
• I tried.

 

• The marriage is killing me.
• I don’t give a damn what anyone else thinks. 

 

• I love you but I’m not in love with you.
• I don’t love you the way I should.
• I haven’t loved you for 10 years, but I was stuck and too lazy to do anything about it.
• I never loved you.
• I never should have married you.

 

• We didn’t work.
• We’re not compatible.
• We drifted apart.
• We’ve become different people.

 

• We’re more like brother and sister.
• We're more like roommates. 

 

• In my head I decided you don’t love me.

 

• You changed.  
• You never change.
• Now we can become the people we were meant to be.

 

• I felt so alone.
• I’m so unhappy.  
• It’s a crime to the universe to be this unhappy.
• I’m not happy and you are the cause.
• Nothing I did made you happy.
• All I ever did was try to make you happy.
• Nothing I did was good enough for you.

 

• Why do you always have to be right about everything?
• You emasculated me.
• You didn’t make me feel wanted.
• You pushed me away.
• You abandoned me.
• You don’t admire me.
• You don't respect me.
• You micromanaged me.
• You were too controlling.
• I’m nothing but a paycheck to you.

 

• I didn’t abandon you guys, I still give you money.
• You are the one in denial.
• You need to move on.  
• We’re over and you’re not accepting it.
• You’re too independent.
• Our marriage was over 5/10/15/20 years ago.
• I am never coming back.

 

• Why can’t I have both of you?
• The affair is not why I left.
• The other woman has nothing to do with why I left.
• The affair is irrelevant.
• The affair doesn’t matter.
• The other woman listens to me
• The other woman admires me.
• The other woman adores me.
• The other woman is a fantasy.
• The other woman is a distraction.
• The other woman makes me feel safe.
• The other woman makes me feel sane. 

 

• You should date other people.
• You’ll find someone better than me.
• I’m not good enough for you.
• I hope you find someone to give you the happiness I couldn’t.
• I’m sorry I wasted your time.
• I’m sorry I wasted so much of your life.
• I hope we can be friends.
• I don’t want to make any promises or give you false hope.

 

• I’m not leaving the kids, I’m leaving you.  
• I did not leave the children.
• The kids will be fine with me leaving.
• The kids are better off.
• The kids are happier now that I’m happy.
• I’m a better dad now.
• I’m happier now than I’ve ever been.

 

• I hope we can settle this amicably, without the need for lawyers.
• Maybe we can get back together when all the debts are settled.